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Changing minds.

It is can be frustrating when I notice, someone was about to say something but suddenly changed their mind.

Because now I'm wondering what they were about to say. Why did they change their mind? Is it something important to them? Or to me?

This is not a criticism.
I do not plead they should always speak their thoughts.

But sometimes wish, they would get it off their chest.

To relieve me of my curiosity at the very least.

And sometimes, more often than not, I think I mostly know what the unspoken thought might have been. Having listened to what they were saying beforehand.

But, f we really study and understand the fleeting expressions on a person's face, do we really understand them? Or not?

Why are some people such good liars?

Amd I'm not talking about Trump. He isn't actually a very good liar, he keeps tripping himself up.

Sociopaths in general, psychopaths and malignant personalities in particular. These are the really good liars. The ones that can fool professional …
I have been fascinated with eye contact for a lot of my life.
Its importance seems to me to be that its a time when we mostly intuitively pick up each others micro expressions. And tell ourselves stories about how the other person is feeling. And even what they are thinking about.

Some people are good at reading micro expressions, some people are not. Such people that have a talent for it,  are like lie detectors. Good authors, good journalists, even dare I say it good lawyers, good psychoanlysts, psychologists.

For many years I have tried to understand consciously the stories I see, about myself, and about the person in whos eyes I see the stories.

Some stories occur over and over.

One such story I have seen is the cis gendered man's sudden realisation that he has just been fantasising some very carnal thoughts about me, and he's just noticed I am not a cis-gendered woman.

O.K. so it doesn't happen so much these days, I am 54, but I was young and gorgeous once, and memor…

Manchester, London and Sun Tsu.

O.K. so... following the recent Terrorist incident in London. I posted the following.

"The Islamists seem to have found the measured response of the British people to the Manchester bombing unbearable. And have further tried to provoke hate, through acts of pointless violence on and near London Bridge, tragically with serious injuries and reported deaths.

The result will be the same. The British will still keep calm and carry on."

In a comment on the thread linked to the post, another poster +Christian NNalletamby, asserted the following....

"There is no peaceful Islam, check the sources.

There are "peaceful" Muslims, who finance and support the killers.
Willingly or not, at this point, makes no difference."

I felt I wanted to distribute my response to this a little more widely. Mostly because it seems to represent my view well. And I think it is a constructive view. So essentially this is me casting seeds wide.

Because as soon as I thought this, I had …